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In sickness and in health…

For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live…

These are the vows that many people exchange during a wedding ceremony. In sickness and in health, I promise to be here, regardless of the situation. When you recite these vows it flows off the tongue easily, most probably don’t even think too much about it. Why would you? For many the “sickness” part doesn’t come until later in life, thank goodness, but for Scott and I, this was not the case. I stood there reciting my handwritten vows to him on our wedding day knowing that “sickness” would be a large part of our marriage, our life. I knew that I would need to put Scott and his health first and make sure that our lives could revolve around his abilities and needs. I knew that my life would consist of hospitals, doctors visits, therapy’s, surgeries, and one day transplant. And now, adding a baby in to the mix there is not much time for “me” these days, but when you love someone you make sacrifices, right? Sacrifices I would make all over again in a heart beat.

Scott’s disease is what is called an “invisible disease”. When you look at him you can not tell that he is sick or has a disability. He is not sitting in a wheel chair (yet), he is not limping around, he doesn’t wear full time oxygen (yet), he appears to be “normal”. This of course creates issues when people see us parking in the handicapped parking space or when people see Scott watching me lift heavy items and not offering to help. He appears to be healthy, but what they don’t understand is that walking more than 20 feet can make him winded or that by trying to pick up that heavy bag of rocks he will become dizzy, lightheaded, and extremely winded. This has been a hard adjustment for him — not being able to do things that society claim to be a “mans job”. We are learning to not worry about the stares we might get and to focus on the positive…

Like the fact that Scott was able to cook dinner AND clean up all the dishes over the weekend, something he hasn’t been able to do in months. Or watch Seeley all by himself Monday night while I went to work AND put him to bed, something he has not been able to do by himself since Seeley was an infant. Of course this may be due to the steroids they have him on at the moment, but we will take it! I have learned from Scott that it is so important to focus on the positives in life and be present in the moment. So today I am choosing to feel happy, blessed, and excited that we have gotten to live “normal” for a few days.

Breathing in the happy,

Ashley 💕

3 thoughts on “In sickness and in health…”

  1. So happy to hear that Scott was able to handle those things recently. I hope and pray that he continues to feel good and gain strength day by day. ❤️❤️ Nancy

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